Over the last few days, friends have been asking me if I will be going to watch Fifty Shades.
Probably not! I read the books and throughout wondered if it was written by a 12 year old as it seems the authour has limited vocabulary, repeating the same sentences over and over.
As for the content, all I could think is that this is pure abuse of power!
The leading man, is messed up in his head because as a young teenage boy, he was used as a sex toy by an eldery woman, a woman who is exceedingly wealthy and a family friend. Subsequently, he becomes a financial tycoon and continues to perpetrate this type of abuse of power.
There are so many people out there for who this is the harsh reality, they’re stuck in an abusive relationship because they have become, financially and emotionally dependant of their abuser.
My other issue with “mr. Grey” is the ideology which is being presented that “Love Conquers All”.
I am a die hard romantic and I so wish that truly, if you love your abuser long and hard enough, change will take place, alas, the stats shows the opposite is true and many victims die at the hand of their abuser. Abusers very rarely change their ways.
Those of you, who have the pleasure of knowing me up close and personal :), know that I am all for sexual freedom, to do as we please in the bedroom or dungeon, if that tickels your fancy but I will not participate in gloryfying any form of abuse.
By all means, enjoy your movie but keep in mind that this is no reflection of reality, it’s fiction, that’s all 😉
Yesterday I wandered into Harmony Adult store and because I was just killing time, I had the chance to actually observe and absorb my surroundings.
The first thing I noticed was that my fellow shoppers were mainly females my age and two couples who were probably close to hitting their sixties.
The two couples were in the section where all the bondage accessories are and the others were in the what I like to call the D.I.Y section.
The second thing I observed was that in the bondage section it was also a gentleman of age behind the counter whilst in the other section were two younger women serving.
Thirdly, I observed myself getting seriously sexually aroused.
I started to have fantasies of how I would dress up and give my man a private striptease show.
This all made me to think about my own sex life and even though I have always been the proverbial naughty girl, it does seem that my sex drive has substantially increased over the years.
And wondering about other women my age.
After doing research I discovered that more and more us mature women seems to be handed an extra increase of sex drive and have more sex then those who are in their twenties, thanks to evolutionary development.
Also that we’re more open to explore and broaden our horizons in the sexual arena, resulting in us not having any issues with one night stands and extramarital affairs.
Now this is music to my ageing ears!
Let’s get it on baby!